As I see it, the issue is when the ref has allowed the pushing and dancing to go on too long and then he feels he needs to act so he hits both of them. Here's a thought, in the first period after 15 - 20 seconds of non-action call a stalemate. Take the wrestlers to the center and give them a quick warning and then follow through.

I wish I would of gotten the name of the referee who officiated the varsity matches between BVW and Ray-Pec last night. Great job of calling both stalemates and stalling. Pushed the action. Best job I've seen in the last 6 years!