How can you be disrespectful to a girl by wrestling her? She chose to wrestle. She knows that she may be tied up like a pretzel.(or that she may tie someone up like a pretzel) She knows the "risks" before she steps on the mat. Now, if a boy was standing in the middle of a wrestling mat, and some gal accidentally wanders onto the middle of the mat, the boy heard a whistle somewhere (me whistling at a hot novice mom), and blasted her and roughed her up, then that might be considered abusive..................Go try to kick her butt, just like she is going to try to kick your son's butt.....