Wait a while and then have a talk with your son about this summer. Let the choice be his, with no pressure. My grandson, played rec. basketball and missed the first two tournaments that he could have gone to because of it.
It was his choice. He placed 6th at state in the 12&u 76#, even though some that placed higher, go to camps and wrestle in the summer. It's tough to go against these wrestlers, but it is a choice that he made. In years to come he will benefit from the loses that he had at state, which will prepare him for things that will go against him in the future.
Just tell your son that you love him no matter what he decides. I'm 60 and my son is 39 and whenever we end a phone call or depart when we are in person, we always end with I love you. When my grandson gets ready to get on the mat, my son tells him (that he loves him when he gets on the mat and that no matter what happens, he will love him when he comes off the mat). Of course my son, will scold him, when he comes off the mat if he should act wrong. You will have to decide, using your own judgement. Which involes time, expenses and other family members.
Grandpa C.
Ex kids wrestling coach.
The most beautiful thing to see on a basketball court, is wall to wall wrestling mats.