Our club preaches you need to lose the same as you win. Easier said then done. My son has had several full blown meltdowns this year on the mat. I have tried to explain the lack of sportsmanship when he does it, but it seems all reason goes out the door when he loses especially tough losses. He had what was hopefully his last meltdown at Rock Creek (2 in same tournament) this year. When it was done, well actually when we got home that night (yeah, i was that mad)I explained to him that he had embarrassed his team, his family & most of all himself by the way he reacted to defeat & that was his last chance. I told him that I would not take wrestling away, but he would have to find his own way to practice as well as tournaments. (he's 9 years old) Then the coaches followed up at the next practice with stairs for 30 minutes & 50 push ups. He lost once at Subs & 2x at District since then & I am proud to say that while he still had meltdowns, they all happened at least 50 feet from the mat & were more along the lines of implosions rather then the usual explosions.