wrestlemom,

Those were not meant to be my opinions but rather reasons that the KSHSAA would give you for not allowing a student to participate in a sport outside of the school during that sports season. I'm sure there are more but those just happened to be 3 that I could think of and with which I happen to agree.
Yes I'm sure if the powers that be in education could have seen the future in regards to what sports would become they never would have allowed them to become a part of the system. I don't feel that old but yet when I went to school girls athletics were non-existent. The boys were limited to fb, cc, bb, wrestling, golf and track. The junior highs at the time followed suit as to the sports they offered. If your high school coach told you to have your son participate with a club rather than the school I would guess he doesn't have much confidence in the middle school coaches abilities. There is the rub with this thing we call organized athletics. That being the lack of qualified coaches at all levels. I see middle school coaches all the time that I'm sure had never seen a wrestling match prior to being hired as a coach. All too often middle school coaches particularly in so called secondary sports are there simply because they lack tenior and can't refuse the assignment. This is where you and others as patrons of that district have to develope relationships with your administration and encourage/prod/demand qualified instructors. Personally if a school isn't going to seek out and hire qualified coaches I wish they would eliminate that sport, as long as it is done equitably, ie if you eliminate wrestling then bb must go too.
While I appreciate your concern regarding your son's education the same cannot be said of all parents. Our club has had parents approach us about their child wrestling with us during the middle school season because that child was academically ineligible. Like most laws or in this case regulations, they are written for about 20% of the population. The rest of us just have to abide by them. Going back to your original post the KSHSAA clearly does not dictate that your child can't participate in his/her sport out of season. Unlike alot of government regulations I find the KSHSAA regulations to be very clear in their intent and scope. I have a hard time believing your school doesn't comprehend the meaning of these. The only thing I can figure is the school district has made a conscious decision that they want students participating in school sponsored activities or not at all. While I'm not an attorney this policy in itself may be a violation of KSHSAA regulations. Either way the policy is flawed and they should come clean with you the tax payer/parent and not plead ignorance.
As to your question regarding participating in a church sponsored event during bb season. In writing all laws/regulations there is an attempt by those writing them to close all loopholes. Once a loophole is discovered it soon becomes a sinkhole. While it seems very restrictive, and is, the purpose was to keep students from participating in organized sports outside the school during season, for all of the reasons in my previous post. All of which, as I stated I agree with.