I can tell you first hand what a car ride with a dad like that was like. My son endured verbal abuse for his first 4 years of wrestling. Win or lose. 1st place or no place. He was yelled at ALL the way home. He was told before every tournament that he probably wasn't going to place because he wouldn't try hard enough. He HATED wrestling! Dad is gone now, we stuck with this sport. His older sisters and I encourage him every match. Win or lose, we just sit back and let him do his thing. He actually likes it now. I think if all that his dad said to him had not been said, he would be an AWESOME wrestler. He's good, just not great. He has a lot to make up for. So dads/coaches out there: everytime you get the urge to berate your kid for the way he wrestled, think about the long term effect it will have. This is my son's 2nd season without dad. He qualified for state for the first time last year and made it to district this year. Are we now making a difference? You decide.