was just wondering for those who have more than 1 kid, have you had any experience with this.

my 7 year old daughter ask me . dad since wrestling season is over would you help me with dance. i said sissy bear mom's help daughter's with dance, she then informed me that i spent all my time with jeffrey.

looking back, she would be right. after school, me and jeffrey would start wrestling, then on the other days he had practice.
then we would run, well he would run i was merly a bystander.
but now after she made those comment's, i told her i would take her to topeka with me to watch state.

she had the nerve to say dad somthing fun, can you believe that.lol. i then informed her sissy we did spend time on the weekends at tournaments, she said thats not the same. so now i really am feeling guilty. so i am planning on a trip just her and me, maybe i can still talk her into state.
better not it will be fun for her, has any one else ever felt guilty as well.

nix i have 5 kids. my oldest daughter is 11. she started playing basketball when she was 5. she is really good. she wants to play all year but i give her a little time off. this last winter season since wrestling has started i watched her play. something is missing. i feel like i havent been there to push her like i used to. i really dont know if this is good or bad. the good is me not being there and her getting mad at me when i try to fix something and the bad me thinking she isnt playing hard like she used to. its kinda the same but she told me she doesnt want to play softball this summer cause she wants to go fishing with me. now my 9 year old daughter is signed up to play soccer and softball and says she wants to go fishing and not play softball. we went out and bought my son a baseball bat the other day for 100.00 and my daughters both said dad i never got a hundred dollar bat. i said nope you got 50.00 pair of shoes for soccer and basketball. its all kind of fun but makes me think in the long run. i still have 2 more ages 5 and 3 that i havent even started with. man maybe we all need to take a year off and just go fishing and hunting.

Nix,

How's this for guilt. My daughter has gymnastics state this weekend and my son is wrestling as well. My daughter said well you have made all of Cody's tournaments can you make it to mine for state. I feel guilty, but hope that state gets out early enough on Sunday to watch her as well.

Nix, I thought you wrote your "finale"! LOL Glad you didn't, but you better watch out, someone might be counting your posts!
I have 5 kids. The oldest is 25, the youngest is 11. We have always been an active family. My kids have been involved in just about every sport there is (if any DARES tell my son the hockey exists...) Everyone got dragged to everyone elses activity. My poor son has probably attended more dance and gymnastics performances than anyone in this state! And his sisters have been to more wrestling tournaments than they want to be at, but they go! I always tried to have a "date" night with each child a few times during the year. We would go to dinner then a movie. It gives you the alone time to talk and it is something they never forget. I still do this with all my kids, even though 3 of them don't live at home anymore. Friday, I am going to dinner and a movie with one of my daughters to celebrate her 21st birthday. Tonight, I babysat my grandson while my oldest took her daughter to dinner, then to see "Horton Hears a Who".
Their father could never be bothered attending anything they did. He really didn't get to know his own children very well. So now that he's gone, he can't understand why they don't answer their cells when he calls, or why they don't call him. Don't let that happen to you. Spend the time with them when they are little, when they are older they will remember.

it' was supposed to be my finale, lol but i am having alot of down time this week, so i figured if i am only on at nite that will work for this week.

plus i pick a bad week to put my finale on here, because i am real intersted , on seeing how all of your kids do this weekend, and i am rotten for all of them to do well.

travis hope you get out early as well and get to watch your daughter.

and mightysmom, i will not mention hockey.

as for huntin bockman, pheasant season in western kansas is some of the best, i will invite you and your kids, and any one else that may want to come for a great opening day or later in the season with a garantee you will limit out. i can't wait because my daughter loves to hunt with me, my son as well it's always quality time well spent.

my daughters say they will not go hunting with me for pheasants cause they do not want to be my bird dog. lol. they still have to go through hunter saftey. I would love to come out and go pheasant hunting. i only got to go 2 times this year and shot 2 birds. the year before i finally got to go to south dakota. shot 7 birds in one field. so i will take you up on that hunt one of these days. especially when my kids are able to carry a gun on the hunt.

Nix-
A little guilt is a good thing. It keeps things in check. I have 5 kids - one's married, 2 kids and a life of his own. My two daughter's love going to their littlest brother's wrestling tournaments - they won't miss them. My middle (step)son is big into horses and during the summer competes at a horse show every weekend. I love horses too - there are 5 hay burners outside my back door right now- but I hate waiting all day and most of the night to watch him ride. (My husband feels the same way about wrestling). Daughters are ruthless creatures (LOL) they will guilt you into lots of things. After state, spend a little one on one time with her - that's what she really wants.

can you believe between just the 5 of us who have posted on this topic we have 19 kids all togather, forget about a baseball team lost my train of thought don't know what we could start with that many kids.

i am going to spend some quality time with just me and her, but then jeffrey will get upset i guess it will always be a no win situation. and i did it again tonite, got off work walked in the house and asked jeffrey if he wanted to throw the football.

if i could kick myself in the mouth i would have no teeth left.
one day i will get this parent thing under control, i hope. still learning.

So far in our first year, my two older daughters have enjoyed watching my two boys wrestle this year, haven't had the guilt thing YET.

Nix, that means add 4 more to your count!
And BTW you better watch how many time you post in this thread......

23 between six people, well i guess 12 people. sry about the posts kids are in bed. and i am awake, so they will just have to deal with me tonite lol.

Add three more...

My daughter will turn 7 next month, and she asked me if I would coach her softball team this year.

This time of year I do spend more time with my oldest, but I do feel like I spend time with my daughter as well. I just wonder how she see's it, or how she feels. I think I will ask her tomorrow after school.

I'm glad you started this post Nix...pretty good stuff.

Thanks for commenting Allie, you brought up some good points.

Just giving you a hard time, I read everyday, but don't post all that often.
Enjoy reading your posts, are you really going to retire from here?? LOL.

You need to introduce your daughter to some of the little boy wrestlers (how old is she?) My daughters are teenagers and love teasing all the little guys (8 and under). I didn't mention that I "get" to coach my son's baseball team - which I gave up after 3 years of it - because I think the boys need a male coach - but none of the Dad's want to do it!! I include my daughter's in crowd control - again, they love teasing this little guys. Other son tolerates it as long as he has a big bag of sunflower seeds and the promise of a raceo on the weekend.

i know you are benalli. and yes retirment is coming up soon. lol it's kinda like the boy who cried wolf, i also enjoy reading your replies as well as all the others.

keep those boys away from my daughters. i will have to show them my shiny 12 guage if they come near lol. ok i would send them to sister school.

Phippen,
I would like to help you guys get out early on Sunday, but it is doubtful. If he knows any of your stuff, then you'll be there til the end.

Allie,
You are in luck; they have that horse thing going on at the Expocentre this weekend too.

Benelli,
I recommend a Browning Gold Hunter. A lot less kick (and barrel lift) and the best safety button hands down.

Mighty's Mom,
There's nothing wrong with having your son going to dance.

Bockman,
Get your daughters some fishing poles along with the guns.

We all need to spend less time on wrestling. But, I agree that it's tough to do when there are tournaments available from Nov through March, and nobody wants to get behind. But, the keys to being a great HS wrestler are learning the 7 basic moves and being able to execute a technique system on the mat. You don't need 40 matches a year for that when you're 8. I know a guy that started wrestling for the first time in HS, and then became a state champ and All-American. I also know a 5-time KS kids state champ who didn't even wrestle in HS.

Cokeley for president!


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nix,

I also have 5 kids,oldest daughter is 20 in college and working, my son who wrestles is 12, my twin girls are 10 and my youngest daughter is 3. My twins are the ones I here it from, so I believe I have it worse, I have to here it in stereo lol. Even though I do coach them in our fall soccer league I still here how much time I spend with my son. I do feel guilty and wish I could spend more time with them in the winter and early spring.
Oh and dont get me started on the suround sound when my wife starts in.
I have told my kids we are going to do alot more fishing this spring and summer, and am hoping to get my twins hunter safety course done also. so whoever is going hunting count me and kids in lol.
this is a great post that I believe alot of parents are dealing with.
Oh I almost forgot, get this, my oldest daughter was at districts and called me on my phone while I was coaching, and asked me if I was going to come out and see her new car, I told her I was kind of busy at the moment and would have to see it later and she hung up on me and hasn't answered my calls or texts since, so it doesn't stop at 20 yrs. old either!!!

Nix, my son who wrestles is 10, he has a 6 year old brother & a 15 year old sister. My 6 year old is not interested in wrestling (yet) & my 15 year old has made poor decisions & has been housed in wakeeney kansas since January. Both of my kids that do not wrestle are jealous of the time I spend with the 10 year old & yet my 10 year old is jealous of the time I try to spend with his siblings away from wrestling. I try to take my 6 year old to practice, he goes from time to time but often finds it boring & would rather stay home with Mom. I give him lots of attention when at home, but this time of year it is not very often as we are hitting every practice that we can. Now, heres the kicker, my 15 year old's birthday is 3/30, she is turning 16 & get's her first pass home since January this weekend. Where will we all weekend including her birthday???? Yep, at the expo centre at the tournament. She is actually excited to get out of her current situation & knows what the schedule is, but yeah I feel you as far as the guilt goes. Not sure there is an easy fix. It's a long season, but I am glad the off season is longer so I can attempt to mend fences with the rest of the family!

Well add 4 more to our team Nix, I had two son's one 9 and one 7 in wrestling this season. The 7 yr old got the burn out and stoped wrestling about 1 toury before sub districts and now he's talking the B word next year. The 9 yr old is going to state this weekend and i have promised the two girls left at home most of the time 5 and 3 that i will have more time for them after this weekend. They both have been talking about wanting me to take them fishing i keep saying its to cold or coming up with some sort of excuse. We all have to juggle our busy schedules around our Children. I am one that is also feeling the pressure from younger siblings and the guilt of not spending enough quality time with everyone else. But i guess after this weekend there is baseball x2 boys and softball for 1 girl here we go again.

Todd