I agree with Beeson and CBR's Dad. This is an emotional sport, both for the wrestler and the coach. I have been on both sides of this emotion. First as a wrestler and now as a coach, if I screwed up my coach (who at one time was my father) pulled me aside, calmed me down and told me what I did wrong. If it wasn't my fault, they still kept me in control, sometimes a little extra effort was needed. That happens sometimes. Now am I condoning abuse? OF COURSE NOT!!!!! But there still needs to be control by the coach/parent. If a swat or being yelled at is needed to get that control back, then so be it. If it becomes abusive, then yes someone should step in. If not, then stay out of other people's business.