I guess I do not think the same as a lot of people do. I like to see the kids roll around on the mat. I also like to see a kid that is just starting get some hope. If the kid gets pinned in 10-20 sec every time he steps on the mat will he want to come back? If the same kid that has gotten pinned almost every time gets to go to the full match, I know he thinks it is better than geting pinned in secs. I know my kid did.
Recently I told my son to let a kid belly down. He was not and will never be mean. My son had pinned the kid in secs every time we had met on the mat. The match went longer than I figgered. My son was in control most of the time. I did not do this for my son. I did this hoping to help the other boy get some mat time. At no time did the boy cry nor did he ever stop trying. If he would have been upset, I would have never asked my son to let him belly down.
After the match the opponent's coach had a fit, yelling, calling me names, telling me I was teaching my son bad sportsmanship. I could not believe it. I felt very bad to have upset him and I apologized and told the coach I was not showboating. I just thought the boy would like some mat time to work on his moves and maybe make him happy to have a full match. I felt like I should talk to the kids mom/dad also. When I found her she said she was very glad I did what I did. She stated her son was very happy with the match. He was proud of himself for going the full three rounds. It was one of the few he did not get pinned.
My son is a novice wrestler. This was the first time I had ever been in a situation where I could do this. Last year, in his first year, someone did it for him and he came off the mat grinning from ear to ear because he didn't get pinned.