I have 2 sons (16 and 8) and have 1 daughter (14). All of my children are athletes. My sons are both wrestlers and what I say to them is when you are on the mat, the person on the other side is your opponent, regardless of wether they are a boy or girl, most of the people they wrestle are friends, but on the mat we take care of business, off the mat we can be friends. If a girl is accross from them, they are to treat her no different then if it was a good friend of theirs. She is not going to give them any special treatment. I have never said to purposely harm someone, but I also have never told them to treat their opponent different, just because it was a girl.

As far as my daughter is concerned she has never expressed to us that she wanted to wrestle, I think she gets enough of it at home. And I personally would not want her to, unless it was an all girl team. I feel there are enough sports out there for her to excell at such as volleyball, softball, track, gymnastics, cheerleading, soccer, golf, tennis, basketball, etc....

Now this is just my personal opinion, but I thought I would put my 2 cents in on this subject.