You have to drop the "I have been there" argument. Many of us have been there. I disagree with you that your examples are the rule. Look at the rosters of over 200 schools in Kansas and see the 9th and 10th graders lining the varsity. For one thing far less teams wrestle on Thursdays anymore. When they do wrestle, there are usually more JV matches going on the mat next to them. I can assure you that JV wrestlers at the majority of high schools wrestle 4-6 days a week. It is not a "FAIR" issue. It is a looking forward, progressing and developing issue instead of pretending that we are doing our wrestlers a favor by encouraging them to take their skills to a lower level just to get that "feeling" of winning a kids state title as a high schooler.
I will bring up a point that nobody including you has addressed. Why are the top wrestling states in the nation on my side? Have they not heard your argument? Should they read your post and then say, "Wow, we are missing out on an extra kids medal!" "Why didn't we think of that?"
The answer is they have talked this through and decided that for the development of their wrestlers, they will push forward instead of backward.