If they are a young 10 and under and they are wrestling a old 10 and under you could have a 9 year old wrestling a 11 year old.
Question are the weight rules something that has to be followed or are they just guidelines or suggestions.
Wish there was a easy answer but I know there isn't. guess will we just keep working on it.
don't get hung up on the age matter, that will never change. in high school you will have young immature 14 year old kids wrestling, 18 year old men. it's not just a wrestling thing either, when your son graduates from college he will be interviewing for jobs, and competing against men/women that have 5-10 years of "real world" experience too!! the thing to do is get it in your head that such is life, and learn to help your child deal with it.
there's rules in place, but tournaments reserve the right to combine weights. that won't happen at the qualifying tournaments or state, but it will everywhere else. the only way is to WORK WITH the director, if NEITHER is willing to compromise, A LITTLE, then there won't be a solution. that will also be there for the rest of time, WE ALL have to give a little to get a little, in life.
THERE IS NO EASY WAY, IN WRESLTING, OR IN LIFE- look at it as a life lesson that you are passing on to a child, as difficult as it is, the earlier those lessons are learned the EASIER it will be to deal with those "real world" /"life" situations that come up.
the trick to all of this is making it understandable to a 10 year old- a few things to try:
-"that which doesn't kill me, will only make me stronger" tell him that bumping up in age/ weight is going to be hard,don't sugar coat it. and that you don't expect him to win, but you do expect him to try as hard as he can, and never give up.
- "a victory no matter how small or insignificant is still a victory"
tell him if you go out and get pinned in the 1st period, say i know it's tough, but we need to work on these few things so you can do better. if he makes to the second period and gets pinned the next time. treat it like it's the state championship. great job son you tried hard, did what we worked on, and you did better than last time. i am so proud. see it's not easy but you can do it.
- i've coached for 15 years had kids excel at a young age and had kids who didn't succeed until the were seniors, and had kids that never really had the success we all hoped for, but this has always kept kids on the team. all of those kids even those THAT DIDN'T STICK WITH IT were better young men/women than before. I AM PROUD OF EVERY LAST ONE OF THEM. I KNOW IT'S NOT EASY.
