Shawnbudke: Although I wasn't going to name tournaments or try to identify the kids involved, yes, it was the JO CO tournament and I am sure we are speaking of the same match.

It was not our son's intention or the intention of his coach that match (who also happens to be his dad) to humiliate your wrestler. During the first period when your coach told our coach that the wrestler was a first year, our coach told your coach we were just trying not to pin him. We knew from his previous matches that he was not real experienced, but were not aware that he was a 1st year. A conversation a ahead of time between the coaches, probably would have helped, but it was not clear until the match started how much of a disparity there were in the two levels.

Our wrestler's coach/dad does not have vast experience in coaching - he probably should have called our wrester over between the 1st and 2nd period and told him to go ahead and end the match. Our wrestler was upset that the match was ended early and didn't want the other wrestler to feel bad - he just wanted to wrestle. We had not been in quite this situation before where there was such a difference in the two level of wrestlers - we will certainly handle it differently in the future.

Please express to your wrestler that it was not our intention to humiliate him or use him as a "clinic" partner. Our wrestler saw him as just another wrestler. Hopefully, he will continue in the sport and grow to love it and have as much success as we are currently enjoying.