Hello NewMom ... as I hope you've noted, I am in Fargo with Team Kansas. I urge you to keep up on the action that a group of outstanding young men will have over the next several days.
I share your concerns in what some do in the name of sports. No one should ever be belittled or subjected to abusive coaches or over-bearing adults. I think we need a few more Mother's like you in our programs to insure that we stay on the straight and narrow!
It seems, you have a pretty good grasp on how you want your child handled, and also the mishandling of others! Your suggestion that you WILL take some else aside is in my opinion the proper way to handle the situation.
Welcome aboard ... we might bark a bit ... but I think we have a group of great people that are putting Kids First!