perfect statement BLT, this is not easy. and shame on the parents, coaches, clubs, who don't get that message acrossed clearly. this is the best sport in the world, but it will never be EASY. someone else said it best, here in the good old U.S.A we have tried to make everything equal. well it's not and it won't ever be. no matter how many committees or rules you put in place, somethings are not equal. NO TWO MEN ARE CREATED EQUAL. Committee... set some guidelines, tournament directors make them clear, coaches take charge of your club, parents challenge your kids, everyone act with honesty and integrity and let's move on.