Success equals more participation, more participation equals more success. A coach has to know his kids and put them in the right positons. It doesn't do a kid any good to give up 2 30 second pins, and it doesn't help the other kid either. An occassional growing experience is another thing. I also do not believe in giving a kid too much false confidence by never putting him in tough spots. A good coach will put his kids in the right positions, based upon the kid. Deep down, we all know where our kids fit, so do the coaches.