Don't waist your time on trying to fix this! That's the best advice you can get. If you do, in the end you'll just be disappointed. You might as well just sit in your corner and never protest a call beacuse the ref will just say " it's a judgement call." Then no matter how diplomatic or accomodating you are the ref will not change his mind even if he is wrong. You could bring out a book and show the rules to him and it still won't make a difference and by this time you probably have already been warned and the moment you say anything you'll get kicked out ( depending on your status with the district your in). You can get the head ref but he's probably buddies with the ref your trying to convince and in the end there not going to turn on there own kind. In fact just today i had a ref go out of his way to come to my corner and intentionaly try to get me to say something so he could kick me out. If I followed a ref to the middle of the mat and provoked him after he walked away and tried to avoid conflict I would be kicked out but the ref can do whatever he wants and USAWK will back him 100%.
Believe me someone who has been through it all. Sit in your corner watch them make mistakes bite your tounge and when you go out of state enjoy the great refs that are not affiliated with your local chapter of USA wrestling. The abuse of the rules amongst refs is staggering and every year it gets worse. Say what you will but I say never leave the match in the hands of a ref. Go out and take care of business and get out while you still have your coaches card. I love this sport but sometimes we take more steps backwards than forwards when it comes to this problem. Just my thoughts and I'm sure everyone has there own opinion. I will say for every bad ref there is usally a good one right around the corner, but everyone remembers the bad ones.