I agree with newparent. Let it be his decision. For us this has worked out well. He decides if he wants to participate in a tournament each week. It is the same with any other sport as well. He decides, end of discussion. No coersion. He is the one putting forth the effort so he gets to decide when is done or when he needs a break. So far he has never missed an entire wrestling season. One yer he played 6 weeks of basketball and then wrestled 6 weeks and did quite well.