The coaches at our club stress good sportsmanship and will make wrestlers who have fits on the mats run during the next practice. I also see many of our wrestlers shakeing the ref's hands after every match. I don't know if this is what the coach has requested but I always think it's neat to see. I know as a parent it would upset me greatly to see my boys throw a fit on or off the mat. Most of these kids will not go on to be college or Olympic wrestlers so the lessons they learn should have more to do with life than wrestling.