Let me be the devil's advocate:

In defense of a coach, here is what happens a lot of the time: the coach, knowing the he has 30 other kids at the tourney, wants to explain some things that he saw that the kid did wrong during the match, knowing that by the time he saw the kid on Monday at practice, he would have forgotten what it was he wanted to tell the kid. Anyway, the kid, being bullheaded and not wanting to listen, mouths off. Coach, feeling like all of the evenings he spent away from his family were unappreciated by this little snot nosed kid, loses his temper and lets the kid have it in no uncertain terms.

I agree with making sure we tell them good job more often than pointing out the wrongs, but on the other hand, let's make sure that the people pointing fingers have actually been in a coaching situation, not watching from the stands.

I don't want coaches to be blamed in instances where unappreciative kids are to blame.

Thanks