I have said A few things this year to coaches about how there kids behavior and what they do in a match.Every one of them say the same thing.IF the reff did not see it it is ok.One more was it is the reffs job to see and fix the problem not yours.Though the year I saw a kid 14 years old in the 190 or so clas Jump and drive his nees in the back of the downed kids nees.It was bad enough The kid getting beat on could hardly walk off the mat.
It is sad what coaches will teach the kids to do to win.