"Everybody wants it called...on the other guy."
- not always the case. Many high school coaches would not mind stalling called on their wrestlers when they are stalling.

"In many matches, they are either interesting enough already, or nothing is going to make them so. So calling stalling serves no purpose."
- did you really just write this?

"Some don't know the rules. It is not required that you bring your opponent back to the mat if he stands up. You must make an effort. That's the rule. Too many officials, coaches, and fans think that there is some time limit (5 secs) to accomplish the return. That is not the rule and should not be called unless no effort to return is being made. Many, many, blown calls on this point. "
- Any good wrestling fan can see effort or attempt to bring someone down to the mat. Fans will be fans and scream for their kids. Refs in Kansas do do a pretty good job on this call already.

"A kid 30 pounds overweight and without any conditioning isn't stalling when he lays down on the mat, he is preventing an early cardiac arrest."
- If a kid is out of shape and not doing anything than stalling is exactly what they are doing. Part of wrestling is being in shape.

"Equally matched wrestlers may not be able to improve their positions because attempting to do so will give up an advantage. Should that be considered stalling?"
- YES

"If a wrestler works hard and earns a lead, protecting that lead would be stalling."
- Yes, if he stops wrestling, you are stalling.

"If stalling was called by the book, few matches would go the distance."
- So instead 0 stalls calls are made! How does that make sense? Nobody is telling a ref to DQ a kid. Stalling can still be a factor in a match without DQ-ing a kid.

"This year college rules took stalling off the penalty sequence and stalling calls won't result in a DQ, regardless of the number."
- College refs called stalling before this year on a pretty consistent level already.

"However, after all this, there are some pretty well-recognized situations where stalling does occur and it doesn't get called. My opinion is that the officials have decided, whether consciously or not, that it just isn't worth listening to the harping to make those calls."
- This is sad to hear, because you talked about reffing on a personal level. GROW A SACK! Tell the coaches to shove it and make calls the way they need to be called. If the job is too tough then don't do it!