Mike,

I am glad you are being very adult about this whole thing. I would mention though, that referees are not required to give a visual count for either stalling or backpoints. Most officials do give a visual for backpoints because it is suggested they do so, for the fans, coaches, and even the wrestlers themselfs. As for stalling, some officials will give a visual count. Technically there is no set amount of time to be given for stalling, but 5 seconds of non activity is a reasonable amount. I will often give a visual count when there is a wrestler in the advantage position, but I do so for the coaches sake. My hope is they will recognize this and encourage their wrestler to stop stalling and move to an agressive move.

I had a coach this weekend get upset at me because I gave his wrestler a warning for stalling because he was sitting on the other kids ankle between his calf and hamstring (we call it k-stating the leg where i'm from). But the kid wasn't even attempting any sort of manuever to score points, hence he was riding. After 20 seconds, I gave a 5 second visual count in view of his coach, then stopped the match and gave him the warning. What was really funny was the coach was mad at me, but I had given the other wrestler the exact same call for the exact same situation in the previous period when he was on top. The score of the match? 2-0, its was pretty obivous both wrestlers were stalling.