Fortunately, it did not affect the outcome of the match. However, I must respectfully disagree and seek to understand. I (and others) was shocked by the call. I think the opposing camp was even pleasantly surprised.

That was among the gentlest "throws" (as you called it) I'd ever seen before that day, and certainly of that day. I saw it as an assertive takedown that went easier than planned. The defender was lifted only slightly over or above his own hips. He merely had his hips/legs slightly pulled up and then out from under him, the result of an untimely squared-up stance begging for attention.

The attacker did not purposely accelerate the defender's fall with his body or flop on top, as was his natural momentum. Instead he intentionally landed on his knees and hands to slow down, because it came easier than he expected.

Yes, the attacker did not prepare to gently catch the defender's fall...nor should he be expected to...it was a textbook takedown that happened very quickly.

The sport is wrestling. While I don't condone poor sportsmanship nor brutal mistreatment, I also don't recommend gently laying him on the mat...that effort in of itself would always place one or both athletes in danger.

I think you would have coached the defender to not get caught in a squared-stance or to immediately turn to belly-down in such a circumstance.

What would you have had the attacker do to avoid the appearance of "slamming him without controlling the defender's fall" and drawing the call? He needs to know for the future. His coach and I would like to give him sound advice. And I would never want him to appear unsportsmanlike in a ref's eyes, or anyone else's for that matter.

Please understand, my intent is not to attack you, rather to understand. I respect you for sticking to your call that you made with good intentions. Yours is too often a thankless job. And you conducted your self very admirably.