I spent many years in the wrestling room you now call home partner. You get respect when you earn it, we earned it then and now it is time for you to earn it too. You get the respect when you wrestle with the best and make no excuses win lose or draw. Seems like there is a well worn adage that says "Speak softly and carry a big stick". You just have to work on each of those real hard and the respect will come. Forget either of them and all the work you do is for naught.