Technically Nurse, you're wrong.

A coach cannot go to the head table and ask about "judgement calls." Questioning a refs judgement is a warning to the coach. The next one he's out the door.

An official with cahonas will ding a coach for the infraction. Rarely does it happen. An official that dings a coach is just asking for it from the fans, coaches, and ADs.

I have a lot of respect for officials that will ding a coach for that behavior if the official is a good official on the mat and has good matside demeanor. I've been dinged for it and I have much more respect for the guy that says, "Coach, you know you are questioning my judgement and you can't do that. That's your warning." rather than the guy that is confrontational and yells at you.

As for dirty vs. nondirty - it's a fans perspective. The kids I worked with were physical.