I believe that there is merit to what tnt has had to say. It is one thing to wrestle to become all you can be, and entirely another to resort to whatever lengths possible in an attempt to demonstrate that your opponent is a lesser person. In my opinion, it is not required to make the other guy look bad, talk trash to him while you score 15 or twenty points on him, bump him after the match, shove him around when you go out of bounds, etc. , etc. there are a few really good wrestlers right now that can close the gap with any opponent, that realize that it accomplishes nothing to publicly humiliate your opponent. Those people have achieved maturity. alas, some guys spend so much time improving their wrestling that common courtesy is a foreign concept to them. One of the reasons that I enjoy competion in smaller communities is that people in the smaller towns know they have to live together every day, so they have at least a minmal amount of courtesy to one another. In the more populous areas where you will never see the fellow again, the way you act toward that person reflects a lot on who you are. For the most part, I would rather have my son coached by a guy that wrestled and had limited success and worked for it than a four timer that was mean to everyone, because that mentality is not likely to stop when wrestling is over.