It is hard to explain how to deal with it and even harder to deal with when you are that young. One of the best things that helped when I was little is going to tournaments and seeing that recognition through awards and success. That to a young person sometimes is so much more important than having to explain yourself to your fellow classmates. If you have something to show or can help her figure out how she feels sbout the sport. Ask her why she loves the sport and what makes her love the sport so much. those are the answers that she needs to explain. Some people will never understand and some people will take convincing to understand and she needs to know that. She needs to know how well she is doing everyday. There is a point where they should make the choice to buckle down, but you should always let your child or athlete know that as long as they devote themselves to wrestling during practice and tournaments at that age that you are proud of them. At that age no matter how much their friends affect their lives, their parents and superiors affect their lives more. At least that is how it was for me. If I did not have the constant sense of success, motivation, and praise that comes from competitions and parental or coaching recognition I would have died out before my true talent was born.